I didn't call because of someone else- still want me?

I've had this happen twice now, and I'm already over it:
We seem to be hitting it off- a date (or even a second date) is in the future for sure- and then he disappears.
I take this as a sign of 'oh, I guess I misread the signals.'
I haven't heard from him in many many days- so I quickly move on, and forget him.

It's at this point when Houdini reappears with the excuse 'sorry about not being in contact- but there was someone else I hit it off with... Want to go out?'

I don't know about you, but being told 'Awww you're my SECOND or maybe even SIXTEENTH choice' isn't exactly something that gets me in the mood.

 I'm not saying I want an undying declaration of love and a claim of 'oh baby, you're the only one for me.' That would sort of creep me out from someone I'm just starting to get to know. 

I just want a reliable person who can either want to go on dates with me, or not. 

I don't like this 'ignore the girl for long periods of time- and then suddenly contact her.'

In my mind you either are single and dating- or are exclusive- and when you have lots of people you are considering, you just let down the people you are not interested in- or continue contact with the ones you ARE interested in.

What the heck?

Who are these people- and why do they think this is ok?

I don't even know how to respond to this sort of behavior!

I had one guy say we were going out on a Thursday and he'd call to make the final plans- he didn't call. About 6 days later I get a text saying 'What r u up to?'

'Uh, you sort of blew me off!'

'Yeah sorry about that. There was a girl I was thinking of going exclussive with. I'd understand if you don't want to date me.'

'I don't do flakey.'

'No date?'

'No.'

And then again tonight- I get an email from a guy I went on a date with THREE MONTHS AGO.

It was an amazing date- sparks flew- I really liked him.

And then he fell off the face of the earth.

He emails me with a 'what's up?'

He asked to talk in an im convo. 

I did, and his excuse was 'there was another girl' 'sorry' 'i apologize'

WHAT THE HECK?

I don't get it.

What am I supposed to do with these people?

It's not cancer. I'm just single.

I have a great group of friends. They're all really swell people, who are smart, funny, talented, and generally good hearted. They are supportive and wonderful.

That having been said, a small part of me gets the urge to punch them all in the face. Why?
Well, this requires a small tidbit of information.
They are all, every single one of them, in a relationship. This is not why I want to punch them.
I want to punch them because they feel that this means they have a special insight that I must lack, or else I would not be single. The fact that I'm single must be some negative horrible thing.

I can comment that I'm going to go on a date and bam! This must mean I'm asking for advice!
I make a comment about some tard trying to make last minute dates with me, and I'm suddenly lectured about how I need to change myself to be more accommodating to men who think constantly texting 'what u up to tonight?' is ok.

Smug couples are so obnoxious sometimes. I am NOT single because I can't get a boyfriend. I have had many people interested in the role- but I'm not interested in them. And the few I've been interested in, well, they weren't interested in me. I'm sort of the opposite of those people who constantly need to be in a relationship. Commitment phobic? Maybe.

Does this mean there is something wrong with me? No.
I'm pretty content with being single, but would gladly give it up if the right fellow came along.

My friends are not the only ones. Family too.
I think they worry for me, because they are all in relationships- and I am never in one.
I talk about wanting to get more in shape so that when I'm old I won't have diabetes.
This turns into a 'you should get in shape- it will help you get a boyfriend.'
What?

I feel like other people care more about my being single than I do.
It'd be nice to have a boyfriend, of course, but feh. I have met few people that I want to really have a relationship with in my whole life. I don't see the point in just settling with someone because you don't want to be single. I like being single about 95% of the time. Is that so wrong?

If I want to get in better shape, it's for me, not the dudes who are, what, rejecting me because I don't have flat abs? Puh-lease.
If I think someone is being a tard, I tell them- much more nicely than that- but I am a bit old fashioned when it comes to dating, and am not going to suddenly say 'hey baby, why don't I set up our first date- you don't even have to call me, I'll call you!'

You know, this makes me think about the double standards of society in gender roles.
A fella can be a swinging bachelor- but a woman?
WHY ARE YOU SINGLE???
ARE YOU OK???????
LET ME GIVE YOU ADVICE SO YOU WON'T BE SINGLE ANYMORE AND YOUR LIFE CAN BE FULFILLED!!!
I'm happy. I'm busy. It'll happen when it happens, and finding that 'special someone' is just not that important to me right now. I have so much on my plate, that I can't and won't make dating a priority right now. I like to go on dates with people occasionally, but it's not a big deal for me.

Sometimes I feel like selfimprovement so that I'm just better with people in general- but that doesn't mean it's all about 'OMG FINDING A MAN!!!'

I do wish I had more single friends, sometimes, that way I could bitch about my latest lame date and not deal with the slightly pitying look of the smug couples, and the inevitable advice. Sometimes a girl just wants to talk about what's going on, and not be given 'life advice' like she's broken or something.

IT'S NOT CANCER. I'M JUST SINGLE.

Lessons in Flirting

It's one of those things that just keeps happening.
You look good, feel good, feel like being flirted with- and it's always the guy with the weird teeth and pockmarks. Nothing against him, per se. He might be a beautiful soul on the inside- way way deep down. Like right behind his spleen is a core of pure angel farts and fairy toots.

Either way, that is not who you want to flirt with you. : |
Does that make me soulless and mean?
Poquito?
Well, I'm poquitosingle, and I'm poquito soulless and mean.